Monday, October 17, 2011

Slacking much...yup :)

So I was going to be much better at this bloggin thing once I moved, but I have been slacking. I love it down here in Texas, But right now I am really missing the midwest fall. The leaves changing and the brisk air, it feels like...home. But luckily I was just back home this past weekend to watch on of my best friends get married.

she made one of the prettiest brides! I guess this made me realize a lot, I have always been so undecided about wanting to be married and have a family- but seeing how happy they were and so carefree...made me think maybe I could do this.

I am blessed to have met some GREAT people since I have moved down here. I always heard about southern hospitality, but they take it beyond. I was unsure about staying here for some time, but they all were willing to help me find things that were positive, and even another job if need be. I have been asked multiple times if guys down here are cuter..and well I think it is a matter of opinion. I have seen a few lookers, but there are still lookers in the midwest. LOL

 Starting Insanity work out has been one of the great things I have done since I got here- I just want someone to do it with me- keep me motivated. I see people on fb updating running all the time, and I need someone to go with. I am excited about this chapter and what all it has brought for me so far. Spring Texas is where I am making my niche for now, I am looking to explore all it has to offer :)

Every day is a new beginning. Treat it that way. Stay away from what might have been, and look at what can be.
 Marsha Petrie 

Thursday, September 8, 2011

Babe, you gotta love yourself


“If you don’t love yourself, how in the hell you gonna love somebody else?”
— Rupaul
This might be a cheesy reference, but it’s all too accurate. It’s almost impossible to be in a relationship if you don’t love yourself. I don’t mean that you should be egotistical about how awesome you are, but you should always strive to take care of yourself and truly accept yourself—warts and all.
Everyone has problems with this at some point or another. We all have flaws and imperfections we wish would go away or neuroses we try to fix with years of therapy. While it’s great to try to constantly push yourself towards something better, you have to take time today to love who you are right in this moment. It can be so difficult when we compare ourselves to others, but remember that no one is perfect. We are all perfect in our imperfections, and as soon as you can embrace your own imperfections, you’ll have a much easier time embracing someone else’s quirks and neuroses.
It can be difficult to try to accept yourself and love everything about you, so try in small ways. This can mean simply taking care of yourself (and your body) by exercising and trying to eat right. Look in the mirror and eliminate the negative talk—pick something you love about yourself and focus on that.
Take time for yourself every day. This is especially difficult if you have many demands for your time and attention, but take some time out to do something you love—read a book, take a bath, cook yourself something you love, you name it. If you take care of yourself, you’ll have an easier time taking care of others and a relationship.
Let go of worry, forgive yourself, and trust yourself. Know that there are aspects of yourself you probably can’t change, but try to love those parts of you too because they make up who you are as a whole. The more you love yourself, the more love you can give.
“To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance.”
— Oscar Wilde

Friday, August 26, 2011

Life as a Nanny

So this was my first week as a nanny, started out rocky. New place new house and my computer broke- leaving me out of contact with everyone that I eft back home...monday was my break down day. But a great friend sent me his spare mac book until I figure out what I want to do ( I can never thank him enough). The lil one did much better this week. I guess I never really realized how important it is to be on some sort of schedule. Adults love them, and babies crave them. She has made some new discoveries this week, she was able to garb her bottle and half roll over. and yesterday she discovered her feet. Its so cool to see how much the learn and how fast it all goes. I have always been very unsure if I wanted children of my own..and I felt this would be a great reason for me to see if I did or not. If you would have asked me monday I would have said heck no I dont want them still, but today, I think maybe I could do this, granted I would like a husband and a great family support system, cuz there is NO way I could be able to do this by myself. I have great respect for single moms doing it alone. And on another note, spending all day with their dog...had really made me want one..or maybes cuz I am so far away from everyone and really want a companion..who knows we shall see

Monday, August 22, 2011

New Chapter

Been a long time since I have been on here, and a lot has changed. I left my job doing social work, and was waitressing for awhile. And I just started being a personal nanny. That wasnt the biggest change, I have moved from Iowa, home to Illinois, and then to Spring Texas all in a less than 3 weeks. This is something totally new for me. I have never really known if I wanted chldren or not, and with being a nanny to a 3 month old I think this is gonna be a new test for me. I was ready for a change. Things just kept going down hill, I find it funny how fake some people can be for so long, and once you leave they show the real them. I have learned so much from the 4 years that I had in dubuque. People are not always as they seem, and some people will suprise you when you least expect it. I am excited for this new adventure and this new chapter but not as excited to have to make new friends. I had just gottena  great core group of friends, and I hope we all stay in touch, I know that we are getting older and times are changing but this is the age where we can have the firends we want for the rest of our lives. My friends all know they are more than welcome to visit any time and I will try to get back as much as I can. I hope this chapter opens all kinds of new things for me. I had said I would go back to grad school, and I do still REALLY want to but maybe right now I need to do this ( since the mom is a professor at a univ. maybe thats the way to get my foot in the door) every oppertunity leads to another oppertunity. I am taking this chance by the horns(maybe long ones? haha get it?)
There shall be more to come- as life of a Nanny continues
Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment

Sunday, May 29, 2011

Patience...?

Having someone to trust is one of the greatest tools a person can have in life. The trust between two human beings is one of the most wondrous reactions that two people can easily share. When we trust someone we are basically able to give them as much love as we want to knowing that they will only use this love wisely, and will never use this love against us.

When we deal with people we know we can trust, we know that we have someone that we can confide in with any given secret in our lives, and know that it will not ever be leaked. We know that we could give them the shirts off of our back if they needed it, and that they would give us the shirt off of their back if we needed it. Trust is one of the biggest relationship makers and breakers, because with trust a relationship is able to grow, and without trust a relationship will crumble.

Patience. When you're sitting in the waiting room, anxious for answers and a cure for your pain. When you are waiting in line, desperate for that one thing that will satisfy your need, quench your desirous thirst. Sitting at home, thinking but not speaking, when you want nothing more than to pluck up the courage to take a leap and say what you feel. All through life we are taught to wait, taught that patience is a virtue and we will always get what we want if we stay patient and never stop believing. "Love is patient, love is kind. Love never boasts." It's all about patience. Sitting and watching. Silently hoping and praying. Patience.

In order for a relationship to be excessively great it is important to find someone that gives you the confidence and support to succeed in life. If you are in a relationship that holds your hand and feel as if they are pulling you backwards instead of making you feel as though you may be able to conquer the world, then you may need to re-examine the relationship that you are in.

When a person is good for you there will be negative moments between the two of you, but for the most part the interactions between the two of you will be positive and the feelings and positivism you gain from your significant other will only help to further your journey to accomplish your dreams and aspirations. When you have someone who makes you feel like with them behind you, you may accomplish anything, hold on to this person, and make sure that you make them feel the same way. Never try to limit someone else's dreams in the chase of your own.

Wednesday, May 4, 2011

Don't Ignore...

When you are around someone so long who loves you it is easy to take them for granted. One of the many challenges of a relationship is keeping it fresh, and not taking for granted that you are in one. In order to do this we must show how much we love one another everyday, forgetting to do so will simply lead a relationship to its demise.

There are many things you can do to show someone how much you appreciate and love them. Maybe try taking them to a place you might not like going so much, but know that they will enjoy. Simply showing your lover affection at a time when you usually don't will also show how much you appreciate them, maybe a simple hug if you don't hug much, or maybe sending flowers to their work may earn you some extra brownie points, and maybe even a tad bit extra. In order to counteract the mundaneness that seeps into any relationship over a period of time, it is best to be spontaneous and loving, even when you don't want to be. In fact doing things when you don't want to do them is probably the best time...

*Never ignore a person who loves you, cares for you, and misses you. Because one day, you might wake up from your sleep and realize that you lost the moon while counting the stars

Tuesday, April 19, 2011

Doesnt have to be so complicated

You see, when we’re born we see the world in an uncomplicated way. We know what we need, and we ask for it. We like nice people, and we don’t like mean people. We sleep when we’re tired, we eat when we’re hungry, and we stop eating when we’re full.
As we grow older, we eat and drink to console ourselves, rather than addressing what’s bothering us. We overwork to avoid close relationships, rather than finding people we can trust to form strong bonds with. We hold grudges, play games, spend more than we make, want things we don’t need, and we get too far away from our basic human needs. In other words, we complicate things.


1. Don’t try to read other people’s minds

2. Get up 30 minutes earlier so that you don’t rush/get a ticket while driving too fast/have to explain why you’re late/get fired

3. Get 8 hours of sleep per night so that you think more clearly

4. Stick to your budget

5. Start saving and investing every week, no matter how little you can spare

6. Balance your checkbook

7. Don’t try to be friends with everyone. Cultivate closer relationships with fewer people.

8. Don’t try to do business with everyone. Identify your target client and take very good care of them.

9. Before getting angry, ask yourself if it will really matter in 20 years

10. Focus on being a good person, not on pleasing others

11. Stay home this Saturday, and finish off that nagging chore that you need to finish

12. Kiss and make up

13. Make a weekly menu, and shop for only those items at the market

14. Ask your grandparents the best way to uncomplicate life, and try it for a month

15. Fill up your gas tank when it’s half full

16. Don’t drink alcohol when you’re tired, sad or mad

17. Pay your bills on time

18. Get an annual physical examination

19. Say “I love you” to your significant other and to your children. Studies show that more marriages last, and fewer kids use drugs, when these words are spoken every day.

20. For just one day, imagine everyone’s intentions are good because most people’s are

21. Give away clothes that haven’t been worn in two years

22. Throw out clothes that are in disrepair, and can’t be mended

23. When you have a conflict with someone, talk it out. Don’t let it turn into more than it is.

24. Know what your priorities are in life, and act as if they are your priorities

25. Tell the truth

26. Don’t cheat

27. Don’t steal

28. If you’re holding on to a ridiculous grudge, let it go

29. Clean your house weekly, so that it doesn’t become too large a chore

30. Do your best at work, or at school

31. Don’t eat when you aren’t hungry

32. Eat when you are hungry

33. Be yourself

34. Say no unapologetically

35. Cook simple meals

36. Don’t try to keep up with the Joneses

37. Pay off your car before buying a new one

38. Organise your desk at the office

39. Change your smoke alarm batteries when the clocks spring forward, and again when they fall back

40. Organise your important paperwork

41. Take only half the clothes that you planned to take with you on holiday

42. Help your children with their homework every night, and have an open dialogue with their teachers

43. Have white sheets and white towels in children’s rooms/bathrooms, because they’re easily bleached

44. Spend your time with nice people

45. Avoid drama

46. Don’t text or talk on the phone while driving

47. Turn off the television/video games/computer; they’re time consumers

48. Don’t engage in office politics

49. Refuse to gossip, or talk behind other people’s backs

50. Do the dishes right after dinner

51. Never go to sleep angry

52. Ask nicely for what you need and want

53. Walk 10,000 steps per day to help your heart

54. Do 20 push-ups before speaking in anger

55. Leave work at work

56. Don’t befriend anyone that isn’t trustworthy

57. Don’t envy others

58. Have your oil changed

59. Take vitamin C BEFORE you catch a cold

60. Don’t work more than 8 hours per day

61. Weed your garden weekly

62. Wash your car weekly

63. Have a spring cleaning month every year, and do one room at a time

64. You don’t need to be best friends with work colleagues, but build respectful partnerships

65. Don’t drink and drive

66. Don’t look for reasons to be angry or sad, look for reasons to be happy. You’ll always be able to find plenty of each.

67. Be friendly with your neighbours

68. Return emails and phone messages promptly

69. Schedule in free time

70. Don’t procrastinate

71. Do what you say you’ll do, when you say you’ll do it

72. Be more flexible when you’re able to be

73. Forgive and forget. End of story.

74. Break the consumerism habit…put a three month moratorium in place on buying anything not deemed a necessity

75. Start your diet on September 1, rather than January 1, so that you won’t also have holiday pounds to lose

76. Take care of any health issues or concerns

77. Have your tires rotated

78. Have your brakes checked

79. Have your eyes checked

80. Don’t let your imagination run away with you

81. Let go of perfection in others

82. Let go of perfection in yourself

83. Don’t try to help those that refuse to help themselves

84. Find a way to reduce your commute to work

85. Have an alloted amount of worry time per day/week, that you strictly abide by

86. Drink more water

87. Eat more salmon

88. Don’t make a mountain out of a molehill

89. Wear your hair in a classic, easy to care for style

90. Finish what you start

91. Wear classic clothes and shoes that never go out of style

92. Create a daily routine

93. Have a 1, 5, 10 and 20 year plan for your financial and life goals

94. Slow down

95. Eat out less often

96. When you ask your husband which outfit looks best, thank him for his answer and wear the one he liked rather than focusing on why he didn’t like the other one

97. Allow your children to grow up

98. Clean out your garage, and donate anything that hasn’t been used in the past year

99. Stretch every day

100. If a relationship is over, let it go